I don’t want spoiled children. Ones that expect big gifts from everyone, don’t remember or care who they came from, and ask why there aren’t more gifts for them to open. Birthdays. Christmas. Whatever the gift giving/receiving occasion is, it’s hard to teach kids to be thankful and appreciate what they receive.
It’s also hard not to spoil them by always giving in and buying them lots of things. The look on their face when they open those gifts, it fills your heart with such joy! You have made them that happy. But how much is too much? We didn’t want to over do it this Christmas with the kids. Our son is 2, and we are working very hard on the whole Christ part of Christmas (he goes to church every single weekend, so he does understand a bit of it), and our daughter, well she’ll be 3 months soon, so she’s just a cute little lump that smiles at your silly faces. We know both kids will be spoiled by grandparents and aunts and uncles (they have lots that all live close by) so we didn’t want to go overboard with toys from us. However, today I was wrapping the gifts for the kids, and it just didn’t seem like enough. My husband had mentioned the other night that he thought we should get them more, and I shot the idea down. But now? Now, I am second guessing it. Our son is very smart for the young age he is, and he will remember who bought him what toy, and I would like a lot of those to be from us, his parents.
How do you decided how much to spend on your kids? Does the amount increase as they get older and ask for smartphones instead of Tonka trucks? Do you take into consideration what gifts they will be getting from others? Do you want the big gifts to come from you (or St. Nick) , or is it ok to let grandparents buy them a bigger gift?
We obviously have a budget (everyone should!) for Christmas. But just because it is a “budget” doesn’t mean it is a miniscule amount. We celebrate Christmas in a big way, and hopefully our kids grow up to understand the true meaning of Christmas and appreciate the gift giving and receiving portion of it too.
Man, parenting is hard.